Dec 5, 2015

Wangfujing Church, Diocese of Beijing

Our hotel sits right beside a beautiful church. When we passed it last night, there were college-aged kids dancing outside the doors to loud electronica music so we opted not to research further. This afternoon we returned and dodged young men on skateboards to step inside. We found what is certainly a Catholic Church, but we are not sure it is in good standing with the Vatican.

The information board at the front doors (just inside an iron gate) name the Church as Saint Joseph's Church and there is a covered statue of him holding the baby Jesus outside the building. The board mentions adoration from 8 AM to 9 PM during the week as well as an English mass at 4 PM on Sundays. Three Chinese masses are early enough that we could possibly make it before leaving for Zhenghou later tomorrow morning, but without certainty of its validity, we are opting to pass on the opportunity.

Despite the uncertainty, both the outside and inside are impressive. While there are TV screens on most of the ornate columns (which presumably display the prayers/music during the mass) and a gift shop built against the back wall of the worship area, it is obvious that this church was built with great care. While we were inside, there appeared to be a prayer service taking place. It was led by a woman in front of a baldacchino but we were not sure of specifics; no English literature was found in the building. We also noted a young priest exiting the church wearing traditional clericals.

We were troubled to see the apparent disrespect for the church just outside the front doors, but I imagine it would be difficult to enforce reverence in a country where the Church is run (at least in part) by the government. It will be interesting to see if the Catholic Church in China ever returns to full communion with Rome.

Beijing on a budget


We woke up this morning ready to hit the reset button. The goal was not to fall for any scams involving large sums of money. With the help of another couple we met at breakfast, I think we managed to seize the day.


The day began with working internet and a video call with both of our boys. While Jeremy seemed happy to see us, I think it was Angela and me that were happiest about getting to see them on our screens. Despite our eagerness to add Seraphina to our family, we miss seeing the children we already have back home!

international breakfast cuisine 

Following the call, we headed down to the 3rd floor atrium for a buffet breakfast. Sunworld Dynasty did not disappoint with international options to satisfy all taste buds. I was feeling froggy, so I went with some unusual choices. The boiled green veggies and beef & mushroom soup were delicious. The steamed dumpling wasn't as good as I had expected due to some foul-tasting filling, and the seasoned, cold mackerel was a definite dud.

During breakfast we made the educated guess that a nearby group of couples was likely part of our adoption group. Prior to today we had only met 1 of 2 guides who picked us up at airport and got us situated at the hotel. We have not met other families or the 2nd guide.

Angela was the first to get up an introduce herself to one of the couples. Kylan and Robert came over to sit with us and a new friendship was born. They are from Phoenix, AZ and this will be their first adoption. They are adopting a 2-year old boy. As was the case with families met during our past trips to China, this one was a perfect match. They asked if we would like to join them for a self-guided walking tour of Beijing, and we gratefully accepted.

Tiananmen Square architecture
Around lunch time we met them in the lobby and headed for Tiananmen Square. Although we had been there with the group last time, we were happy to return with new friends for another look. We had to turn down several Chinese looking to make a quick buck as our personal tour guides before making it to a security checkpoint. It was then that we learned that Kylan and Robert had intelligently brought along their passports while we left our IDs in the hotel lockbox. The guards waved us through without a care, but our lack of ID would be an issue later.

Inside the walls we stood in line for tickets to enter the inner halls. While waiting, an older Chinese woman was clearly attempting to get her grade school-age son to stand nearby to get a picture with "the Americans". Having seen this on our last trip, I mentioned it to the group before brazenly stepping up next to the boy and putting my arm around his shoulders. The boy was a little surprised and went to move away (smart kid) but the mom waved him back to me as she took the picture. No words were exchanged, but I knew I had made it into another family photo album.

hotel's inner atrium
Maybe that event made onlookers a little more intrepid. A male and female student approached us next and mentioned that they were celebrating their classroom's 5th birthday and wanted to get a video of us singing Happy Birthday to the class. For this one I got the help of Angela and Kylan, who surely had better singing voices than me. After a beautiful rendition of Happy Birthday, the students hugged us and gave us high fives. I can't wait to see us on China's version of YouTube. I have no doubt our show will go viral.

When we got to the front of the line for tickets, the lady at the counter asked for our passports. We just looked at her with a stupid look. I showed her my driver's license and asked if that would work instead. She rolled her eyes and asked for Angela's license. We told her Angela didn't have one. The employee stared at us for what seemed like hours, then grunted and printed out two tickets. I suppose 80¥ was more important than security in the Square. I assume it was my pretty face that got us in. That or I was already famous on the internet from the aforementioned viral video.

Monkey King's robe
After an hour or so of walking around the Square, we found our way on to the top of the outer wall. This was something we had not done the last time and it was a nice addition. In the buildings on top of the wall, they had free museums with samples of the robes worn during the various dynasties as well as videos explaining how the buildings were completed without the use of nails. We left out a side gate when we all agreed it was time for something to eat.

We returned to the Apple store where we were accosted the night before, but with our new friends (aka chaperones) we pushed through the throng of natives checking out the Apple products to enter the mall. With Christmas approaching, all the parents had their kids lined up for photos. Only Santa was no where to be found. Instead, it looked like they were in line to get their pics with a giant replica of Big Hero Six. We took escalators to the 6th floor and found a place to eat that seemed to be a hit with the locals.

Dinner was noodle soup with a spring roll and a Coke. The soup came in a giant bowl, and remembering A co-worker's reminder that slurping was OK in Asia, I did my best with the chop sticks to shove noodles into my mouth. I had the spicy noodles with mushrooms and the Chinese don't fool around with heat like they do back home. While not unexpected, the soup packed a punch. Robert had the same and before we were done, we were both coughing with tears in our eyes from the heat. Delicious. Oh, and the whole meal -- two bowls of soup, 4 spring rolls, and two sodas -- came to a total of 70¥ or roughly $12. Yeah, I'd say the tea and nuts was a scam that we totally fell for.

As we get ready for bed, Elijah is preparing to receive Confirmation back home (proud parents, sorry we can not be there to witness). As my buddies in F3 get the Christmas party underway back home, we will be boarding a plane for Zhengzhou where we will meet Seraphina for the first time on Monday, hours after the Panthers hopefully extend their record to 12-0. Thanks for all the prayers and well wishes. We will talk again soon.

Dec 4, 2015

You spent how much?

That was a long day. Up at 6. Leave the house at 7:30. Catch our flight from Charlotte to Detroit at 9:40. Land in Detroit with just enough time to use the restroom before boarding the plane for Beijing -- a 14-hour flight. About 90 minutes to the hotel, and 60 minutes to get the internet (kind of) working. By my count, we've been up roughly 26 hours straight and are ready to crash at 8:30 PM (that's 7:30 AM back home). Our Friday is over; hope you enjoy yours.

So why the title? Well, let's just say I made some questionable purchases and now I'm doing the math and trying to decide which was the biggest mistake. Do any of these sound unusual to you:
  1. $169 to upgrade to Comfort+ for a seat close to front of plane with 4 inches extra leg room and "free" cocktails. I got a Jack & Ginger and a rum and Coke which averages out to $85/drink.
  2. I forgot to bring an ethernet adapter for the laptop. I picked one up at an Apple store in Beijing for roughly $38.
  3. Met a strange Chinese fellow who convinced us to share a small pot of tea and a bowl of peanuts in a back alley bar. Tab was 500¥ which amounts to $83.
Yeah, so $169 extra for seats may not have been the best deal around, but we did it mainly to have seats closer to front of plane with a little extra leg room. I was OK spending a little extra for the "luxury" even if the only real "extra" was the free liquor. The Thunderbolt adaptor for $38 sounds great -- I'm thinking I would spend $40-50 back home plus tax. But a small pitcher of tea (think 2-cup coffee maker) and some Planter's peanuts for $83?!? I'll never complain about an $8 beer again. (JollyRoger would be proud that I didn't leave a tip.)

We managed to part company with our new Chinese friend before he could order a 2nd pitcher, especially once we realized he wasn't going to be able to cover the bill. He claimed he taught grade school children English and wanted to work on this conversational skills. To this credit, he did a great job. But the whole time (especially when we turned off the main street into the back alley) I thought he was going to mug us. Little did I know it was the tea shop that was going to take me for all I had!

Now we're back in the hotel room. We have a free day tomorrow. The rest of the adoption group (who we have not met yet) are going to the Great Wall, but we passed on that option since we visited it on our last trip. Originally we thought we'd tour Beijing on our own, but now we're thinking we might have to stay in our room and watch movies on the laptop. If we have another day like today, we'll be broke before we meet Seraphina.

Edit: As luck would have it, I was kicked off the VPN connection while typing this and couldn't get back on Friday night. Apparently China and Google don't play well so without VPN we have no blog, no email and no Google Hangouts with the kids. Dumb communism.

And we're back. For now.

Nov 28, 2015

An Angel Awaits Us In China

"Well, you never did the baby update - at least not HERE. The only way you will update HERE is if you go BACK to China :)" 
This was one of the last comments from friends who we met in China when we adopted Leah six years ago. Well guess what? I'm updating HERE :)



On December 6, 2008 we posted our itinerary for our trip to adopt our first daughter. We flew out of Charlotte on December 10 and returned on Christmas Day. Little did we know that our 2nd daughter was already 4 months old and nearby when we were in Zhengzhou meeting Leah in person for the first time.

"Leah has been clamoring for a sister for a couple of years."

Now, almost 7 years to the day (we fly out December 3rd) we are going back to Beijing to adopt an adorable 7-year-old girl. I recently sent an email to family and close friends explaining how we made the decision to once again grow our family and a few important details about our 4th child. Here are the details for all to enjoy:

Leah has been clamoring for a sister for a couple of years -- seems her brothers don't always want a social butterfly joining them for play time. Angela has always been open to 12+ children of any nationality with any special need. The log jam was with the husband/father who wasn't sure he was ready for whatever God had planned. After much prayer and soul-searching, I finally fell in line. We opted to go back to China given our familiarity with the process and the adoption agency.

The adoption process began several months ago, but as it was mostly paperwork and meetings with a social worker, I didn't want to bore anyone with details. Only in the past couple of weeks has the process picked up steam as we received a match, did some research, approved the match and received Chinese approval.

Meet Seraphina Na Smith:



Na was born on August 10, 2008 (not quite another 8/15 birthday!). Yes, we are adopting a healthy 7-year old girl. We decided on the name Seraphina (Na will become her middle name) to accurately describe this sweet, angelic little girl.

So what's the catch? As is typical of most adoptions these days, "Sera" has a special need. Unlike Jeremy and Leah, this one is a bit more noticeable and will require surgery. Seraphina has a deformed left leg. Per the x-rays and advice from doctors, she does not have a femur (thigh bone) or kneecap. Instead her tibia (calf bone) extends from her hip with her left foot where the knee would be. X-rays suggest there is little or no bone in the foot. She will need to have an AKA (above the knee amputation) and be fitted with a prosthetic (artificial leg). Currently she wears a makeshift device that straps to her pseudo-foot.

"I specifically remember the father telling me that among all the special needs children might have, a deformed limb was the EASIEST to deal with."

Obviously we didn't make the decision to adopt her lightly. First I spoke with a friend who is an MD and shared with him the information and x-rays we were given by the agency. He mentioned the AKA which I researched online. That led me to the website of Prosthetic & Orthotic Associates in Orlando, FL (poacfl.com). 

On Labor Day morning I sent them an email and 5 minutes later (on a holiday!) I received a phone call from one of their employees. Stephanie spoke with me at length about children and prothetic technology. She assured me that they have worked with many families who adopted Chinese children with the same or similar disability. She explained how their business worked to treat every child as an individual case and to treat each patient as family rather than a client. She provided names of three families that would be willing to answer any questions we might have. 

Two of those families contacted me by phone before I had a chance to call them. One lives in Cary, NC and adopted a 6 year old who just turned 14. They shared pictures and invited us for a visit before the call was over. I specifically remember the father telling me that among all the special needs children might have, a deformed limb was the EASIEST to deal with. Having a false leg was not life-threatening nor did it require further surgery or impede the child from growing up and taking care of themselves as an adult. By the end of the conversation I had decided this was something we could handle.

"Sure things won't be 'normal' but since when are we called to be 'normal'?"

I imagine right now you're where I was a month ago -- somewhere between shock and speechlessness. I suggest checking out POA's website (http://poacfl.com/prosthetic-care-for-kids-and-teens/) and youtube videos (start here: https://youtu.be/DwMBUarF-4k). Once the tears dry up (I'm still a wreck after watching the video, but I'm getting better) I think you'll agree we (all) can handle this. Sure things won't be "normal" but since when are we called to be "normal"?

I'm sure the initial weeks after we arrive home won't be any easier as we overcome a language barrier and try to bond with an older child prior to telling her about a necessary surgery. We recognize the work cut out for us (and her) when Seraphina is in public and people are curious or disturbed seeing a child with a prosthetic leg. We anticipate having lots of questions while trying to provide lots of answers to everyone else. 

So there it is. We're finally doing what our friends apparently knew all along -- returning to China for another daughter. I had not planned to blog during this trip but so many people asked about it that I figured I should bring redbrownhound out of retirement for a reunion tour. Stay tuned!


Nov 7, 2009

Finally! A sunny day for soccer

The Smiths enjoyed the 1st sunny day of soccer in over a month. Dad got a new cell phone (a distant cousin of R2-D2) and figured he'd look into how the camera and internet worked. If he can take and post pictures all at once, perhaps this site can get an update or two before the next overseas adoption.